Crafting Personalised Wedding Vows with Tips from one of our amazing Marriage Celebrants!

It's time to get your pens and creative juices flowing because we're about to dive into the marvellous world of wedding vows! Writing your own vows is a chance to pour your heart and soul out, bring tears and laughter to a special moment, and to show the world why your love is one for the books. Here’s some tips from one of our amazing Marriage Celebrants, Lauren Bridge Celebrant

Set the Tone

Have a chat together and decide on the tone you want to put out there. Are you the witty and humorous duo? Or perhaps the hopeless romantics who can't get enough of the mushy stuff? Whether you opt for funny, poetic, or a perfect blend of both, make sure the tone reflects your personality and captures the essence of your relationship. Get creative and play with some words!

Seek Inspiration

Looking for inspiration is totally okay! Read books, a few template vows, and even watch movies or listen to songs that evoke emotions similar to yours. As a celebrant, I know how hard it can be for some to put heart to paper, AND IT IS OKAY TO TAKE FROM A TEMPLATE, if you read template vows and they resonate with you, it’s okay to take parts of it. But still make sure you spice it up with a bit of personality.

Start with a Bang

Grab your partner's attention right from the start with a powerful opening line. Usually a throw back that really makes them think, or what you were doing right in that moment of writing your vows. Was your child pretending to be a submarine in the bath while your dog is running around with the zoomies, all while trying to write these vows. The reality is, that’s your life so it always goes down a treat.

Starting Off

Embrace your story, your love story is like no other, so let it shine through in your vows. Reflect on the moments that brought you together, how you first met, the moments in between, the moments that still stick with you today. How you knew she was the one when she ate a giant burger in 3 bites or stabbed the sushi with her chopstick. Touch on how proud you are of where you both are today, how you’ve grown together. Take inspiration from your journey and infuse it into your vows. Remember, this is your chance to tell your partner why they are the yin to your yang, the peanut butter to your jelly, and the one who makes your heart do cartwheels.

Get Personal

Your vows should be a deeply personal expression of your love and commitment. Share specific anecdotes, memories, and traits that you adore about your partner. Recall the moments that made you fall in love and the little things they do. This personal touch will make your vows authentic, heartfelt, and a true reflection of how you got to this day.

Make Promises and Commitments

Wedding vows are more than just expressing love; they are also about making promises for the future. If you’re going to write promises you can give them many tones, beautiful and true, or add a few funnies in there.

But I think we all know what we are promising one another when we’re standing up there getting married, so promises aren’t necessary if you do not want to include them. Totally up to you! Just have a chat about this when you talk about the tone you want to put out there.

Keep It Concise

While pouring your heart out is essential, remember to keep your vows concise and focused. Aim for a length that allows you to express your emotions without losing your guests' attention. Avoid going on tangents or overloading your vows with excessive details. Keep it sweet, succinct, and impactful. 4 paragraphs is short and sweet, 2/3 of a page is long but acceptable vows as per LBC.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Once you've written your vows, practice delivering them aloud. This will help you familiarise yourself with the flow of your words and ensure that you can confidently speak on your big day. Consider recording yourself or practising in front of a mirror to fine-tune your delivery and iron out any nerves.

Incorporate Humour

Laughter is the spice of life, and injecting some humour into your vows can create a happy memory. Share funny anecdotes, inside jokes, or playful promises that will have your partner and guests chuckling. Just make sure the humour aligns with your personalities and is well-received by your audience.

Be True

Above all, be true, write and speak how you do every day and let authenticity be the key. Don't try to be someone you're not or mimic what you think a wedding vow should sound like. Stay genuine, let your love shine, have a laugh, and your vows will be nothing short of incredible.

YOU CAN NEVER GET YOUR VOWS WRONG!